Thursday, September 9, 2010

Creation Surprises

All in the same day!!!

This year we made our usual pathetic attempt at a small garden. We harvested one cherry tomato and one blackberry. We would have gotten 5 blackberries if the birds hadn't beaten us to them. In all fairness we knew there wouldn't be many blackberries this year,but it does make for a better story.

This is what our garden looked like 3 days ago.

But wait....what is that in the corner????
A cucumber, and we found more growing!!!

It was delicious!!!
Then later last night. At the same time of day, this was the view out my backdoor...
and this was the view outside my front door.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Three Random Books --Part I

This post was inspired by a couple of things. One was a book I read called
Everything I Needed to Know About Being a Girl I Learned from Judy Blume. It was a collection of essays written mostly be professional writers telling a story from their life about reading a particular Judy Blume book that was meaningful to them. I picked it up after reading some comments about it someone had written on facebook. I had read a number of Judy Blume books growing up some of which I remembered more than others. She wrote books for young children, teens and even adults. I read all the books for younger children and a few of the teen books. I especially remembered the book Forever being a big deal and the whispered question in Middle School of,"Have you read Forever?" and the mystery behind the book. In fact, a few years ago, I spotted the book in the local library and picked it up. I have to say, I am glad I was spared that book as a 13 year old! Judy Blume is known for her honesty and I'd say liberalism at the time in the information she shared with young teens. She wrote on a variety of subjects that kids might have to deal with such as bullying, moving, death,puberty, and sexuality.

The second thing is the frustration and even anger I feel when I walk through the young adult section at Barnes and Noble and see the horrid choices that are put out their as popular reads for teens especially teenage girls. These things left me wondering just what sort of books are teens picking up and where are they finding their inspiration, new ideas, and help with discovering the world through books.

My intention had been to go to Barnes and Noble and pick up 3 young adult bestsellers to read and check them out to see just what teens are exposed to. I still plan to do that, but I found myself wandering the young adult section of the public library and wondering just what my own daughter might pull off the shelves if she had the freedom to read whatever she wanted(she chooses, we approve,and we do make errors). I tried to randomly pick 3 books off the shelves but at the same time avoid the obvious drivel attune to the Sweet Valley High books of my generation. I also tried to have variation, and I have to admit I did judge a bit by the cover; but I really didn't know what the books were about when I chose them other than I could tell one dealt with magic. The rest of this post is based on the three books I picked.

I'll start with the one book I actually liked and for the most part approved of: Elske. I have to admit the cover of this book drew me in as it was Vermeer' painting Girl with a Pearl Earring . Elske is set in medieval times; she is a 12 year old girl living in a rather barbaric society where men are animalistic and women primarily worthless. She has been selected to be a sacrifice for the Volkking on his deathbed. This set her up not only for death but for being repeatedly violently raped beforehand. Her grandmother arranges her escape from the area and takes her place. This is easily done due to darkness and the drunkeness of the men involved. Elske makes her escape and joins up with some travellers and continues on with them to their city. She finds a place taking care of a variety of people in several households. Her lifedevelops some interesting traits in her such as a fierce loyalty with unusual courage yet stoic. Without telling the rest of the story, we follow her through several years of her life and the situations in which she finds herself involved. I found it a rather interesting read and a decent page-turner. It was thought-provoking, a worthwhile read, and not particularly graphic. I did find myself wondering what made this a young adult book other than the fact that the main character started the book at 12 years old. I think it is more suited for an older teen or adult.

The second book I picked up was Luna. I found the title a bit intriguing since I knew Luna to mean moon so I snagged it. Turns out this book is about a boy who was transgender, his sister who was the only one that knew his secret and his best friend(a girl that had a crush on him.) I had to endure his angst over knowing he was a boy who should have been born a girl and what all it entailed. He would borrow his sisters room to dress up and put on make up and do his nails. He eventually decided he needs to "come out" and be true to who he is and how this affects him and the people he cares about. There was quite a bit of "agenda" in this book explaining the difference between homosexuals, transvestites, and transgender and the need to be accepting of all types of people for who they really are because "hey...it is all ok." For some one like me, I found it all a bit gaggy. I found if laid on rather thick and a book really written just to make a point and not so much telling a good story. That might be a harsh judgemental on its literary merits but I did find it a bit hard to remove myself from my opinions on the topic to judge the writing itself. The sister was definitely the best character. Not the kind of book I want my kids picking up at the library. I am all for teaching my kids my values including my views on how God created the sexes. ( and yes, I know this will irritate a few of my readers ;-)

Lastly, I picked up book #1 of the Sweep Series,Book of Shadows. I could tell by the cover and the titles of the other books that it dealt with magic. I always wonder about books that may have been Harry Potter inspired and how they compare so I picked this one up. (I have no clue if it was Harry Potter Inspired or not)It really wasn't a badly written book though nowhere the ranks of literature. A new kid moves to town; he is good looking and seems very confident and sure of himself as he gets to know people which makes him rather popular. He is involved in the Wiccan "religion" and seeks to get other people to join him. He is particularly interested in one girl that he suspects is a full-blooded witch and has strong powers. He is correct and she begins to discover just what her powers are and how to use them. It was a rather short book and quickly led into the next book and the next one for a total of around 11 books or so. I read the first several before I fizzled out and decided I really didn't have time to read any more garbage. What I thought was scary was how these books portray Wicca as being a lovely religion based on creation, the creator, and kindness and love for all. That is one way the new kid draws others in. Only later do you discover that he is actually a part of a evil coven. While evil witches are rare they do exist and it is their hunger for power that drives them. These books did a rather good job of making Wicca look attractive with just that little bit of risk that seems to often draw teenagers in. The kids and the magic in this book are nothing like the kids and the magic in Harry Potter. Again, not a book that I'd want one of my teens to pick up.

There is no way to judge the reading material available as a whole from random books picked up at the library, but it is a reminder to pay attention to what our kids are reading and check them out. I do find it frustrating that there is such a lack of good quality material and a bit scary knowing that what they read shapes their thinking.

Lastly, I call this Part I, because I still plan to do the same thing at Barnes and Noble where I can find out what are the popular books instead of my random sampling of books that no one may even be picking up. Do teens even read library books these days I wonder??


Saturday, September 4, 2010

Signs of a Two Year Old Boy's Presence



2 year old boy with crayon attacks Mom's favorite chair:

Even though he is the first child to do this, Mom has been around the block a few times and only allows washable crayons and sees the value in paying extra for stainguard. Two year old boy is off the hook.

Less damaging sign of a two year old boy. I wonder why they can't be so neat and orderly in other ways.

Friday, September 3, 2010

Sew Green


The girls made some reusable/washable sandwich bags to use for on-the-go snacks. We used this tutorial; it makes a great beginner project and a great way to use up some scraps! Hope someone can use this idea! Oh and the bonus picture at the bottom was my inability to ignore a "Take picture me! Take picture me!"




Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Wordless Wednesday

August 2010 Book Log

79. The Reapers

80. The Unquiet

81. Sunset Limited

82. Bad Luck and Trouble

83. The Closers

84. Book of the Dead

85. The Apprentice

86. Vanish

87. Fury

88. Exile

89. Instruments in the Redeemer's Hands: People in Need of Change Helping People in Need of Change

90. Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God: What Every Christian Husband Needs to Know

91. Running Scared: Fear, Worry, and the God of Rest

92. Death by Love: Letters from the Cross

93. So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood, and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids

94. The New Medicine: Life and Death after Hippocrates

Saturday, August 28, 2010

A Lesson Learned Regarding "Innocent Online Games"

A couple of years ago Jack who was around 4 was given a TY beanie baby. It was like a Webkinz for preschoolers. I had no intention of telling him that it was anything other than a stuffed animals as I am not crazy about 4 yr olds on the computer, but his sisters realized at once what it was and told him. He was, of course, very excited to have his own "webkinz." Like a webkinz, his animal had a room and accessories and you earned stuff for him by playing games. The games are very easy and rather tame and harmless. At this stage of the game, he mostly plays the baseball when since baseball is his current obsession.
Not long ago, Emma was playing it and she was playing a babysitting game. The opening screen that popped up had 3 Hootchie Mamas introducing the game. I was totally shocked since not only was it a preschool game, but a game centered around stuffed animals! It said, "Games for Girls." I quickly told her that she couldn't play that game or any other game that was not their normal TY games they played. I kind of forgot about it until I was reading a book that mentioned something about Bratz online games that took me halfway by surprise(halfway because they are Bratz Dolls afterall).
Because of what I read, I went back to the TY site to see if I could find the game she was playing. I went to the daily games where you can find all the past daily games and found the babysitting game. I played the babysitting game. It was extremely easy and lame. There are two babies sitting in high chairs and you get them whatever item they are crying for. It is definitely a preschool level. BUT on the intro page is a link to "other girls games" or something along those lines. When I clicked it, I was sent to a page with all sorts of online games.
What I found there literally had me in tears over what young(and not so young children) could easily find and think they were ok because they got their from TY. Some of it has to be classified as cartoon porn. Here are a few examples. There is one game called Private Eye. In it you are shown a building with a bunch of windows with the shades pulled down. You are the Private Eye and have a camera. You pause over a window to see if you can take a picture when the shade is raised. Behind one window is a woman who is extremely well endowed in a thong bikini. Her backside is stuck up in the window and she drops her top. Her back is to the window but you do see her drop her top. Besides this being disturbing because she is inappropriately dressed and drops her top, it also teaches kids how to be peeping toms.
Another game is called "Naughty School." The story in this game is that the teacher is really hot and all the boys are in love with her and want to get a glimpse of her panties. You try to click on different things in the classroom to get her to fall down or squat down and when she does she flashes the class her pink panties at which time all the boys flash hearts over their heads. As I am playing this game, I am also wondering why this is a game for girls. Do we want our girls to think that it is perfectly normal and ok for boys to act this way?
Lastly, there were lots of kissing games. In one of the games, two couples are on dates and sitting at tables next to each other. The boy and girl at separate tables are cheating on their dates and when they aren't looking you are to have them kiss each other and not get caught. Seriously?? Besides promoting kissing to kids as young as preschoolers we are going to tell them cheating is ok as long as you don't get caught.
Beside the content of the games, and the lessons being taught in the games, I couldn't help but be disturbed by one other thing. These games were so easy to play. There was almost no skill to play them. If you could work a mouse and click a button you could play them. They were not challenging at all. Their sole purpose was sneaking a peak, kissing, or being naughty. I don't think that I am being over the top to think that the purpose of these games is to draw kids in to bigger and badder things and lure them into areas such as pornography.
I learned a valuable lesson. No matter how innocent or tame you think something online is, there is always that possibility of something inappropriate being just one simple click away. There is no such thing as too careful or too much supervision when it comes to kids and the internet. Filters only do so much. It was also a reminder to me, to train my kids on what to do when they see the slightest inclination of anything inappropriate, to not click away from approved places, and when in doubt to always ask! Afterall, if you put a kid on the internet you are practically asking them to navigate a mine field.


***Edited to add: This was not a webkinz. I compared it to a webkinz because most people know what they are and how they work. We do not have any active webkinz so I cannot tell you if it is possible to link away from their site to other places. This is a TY online animal not a Webkinz animal.